Monday, June 9, 2008
I need help with the monster!
I really shouldn't be blogging right now but I'm getting to the end of my rope with Benson and wanted to shout out for ideas. He is biting like crazy. Yesterday, in the nursery, he actually made contact with a child before the teacher could get to him. There was a nasty bruise and all I can do is say, "sorry". Lame. I've been doing time-outs but they aren't working at all and I can see the tendency to go for the bite when he's frustrated increasing greatly. Already today he's tried to bite me 3 times! I've tried everything I can think of, which isn't much. It's so hard because his understanding of consequences, and speech in general is so limited. Help, help, help!!!
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I really wish I had some good advise for you but I don't!! I guess you could bite him back and see if he likes it? :) Or you could take him to our nursery and see if he gets bit!! I her it happens frequently.
About the lilacs, I don't think there's any good way to keep them alive long. Mine are droopy today and it's only been 3 or 4 days.
When is your surgery? Are you guys going to the Rexburg Air show?!
my first idea was to bite him back :D but I have heard of pinching/plugging their nose when they do it...
If he is doing it out of frustration because he can't communicate his wants or needs, it would be best to focus on helping him communicate. I did sign language with Meka and I think she would have been terrible if she hadn't had those few signs to tell me what she wanted.
Also just flicking his chin/lips when he does it so he can make a direct correlation between the biting and the consequence. Obviously not hard but just enough to get his attention.
Another thing I read (and I am terrible at this) is to use the least amount of words possible or they just get lost in what you are telling them.. like "No Biting" instead of "Don't bite, that isn't nice" or it said even just "No" is better than too much. Anyway I hope that some of this helps! :)
Oh if you decided to do sign language "signing time" is the best way to teach kids signs, Meka did her first sign at 9 months it was amazing that I could communicate with her and have her understand! For a long time she didn't sign much but when she was mad I could do signs and she would see them and understand since she was mad and not processing sounds.
anyway GL!
Hey Kim,
From your old-fashioned auntie :) John bit one time in his life - a kid in nursery & I happened to be there. I immediately reached out & bit him in the exact same place & not hard, but just enough for him to see how it felt. He never bit another kid. While I can see that's probably not the best way to handle it, it worked for John. Now - does someone know a way to get him (now a 6th grader) to remember to turn in his homework? :)
~ Lynne
Is he teething? I can always tell when Andrew is teething because he bites on my shirt or his blankets. He hasn't tried it on anyone...yet. I think I would try biting him back.
Well I think we all know I had the biter. Thankfully she is past this stage, mostly. I know there are people that swear by the biting your child thing but nothing worked with my little girl. Her problem was that she is head strong and knows what she wants and gets really frustrated when people, especially other kids get in her way or take her toys. I am in no way blaming the child that gets bit cause they are all just kids and don't understand things like not taking toys. But this is what really set mine off. Actually the only thing with her that seemed to work was one to come down really hard with the no's when she tried to bite me. And two to try an eliminate the frustrations, there were a couple kids in nursery I just kept her away from for a while and it really helped, she did still have to grow out of it though. I know how wimpy a sorry feels when your child leaves a mark or a bruise on another child especially when they are young, but hopefully the parents know you are doing all you can. Good Luck! I really hope it clears up faster for you than it did for me.
kim i hope you are doing well after your surgery.
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